Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Noah Pozner: a force of nature

Noah was an adorable, irrepressible little rascal. You never knew what was going to come out of this gorgeous mouth of his but you could safely bet it would be something impish and often, a bit fresh. He had an answer to everything. Last month I flew in from Seattle for his and his twin sister's birthday. One of his presents was a big Lego Star Wars spaceship and we spent most of the following afternoon, a Sunday, assembling it. I am truly not a Lego expert, so we followed the instructions very closely, or at least I did. Noah was more inclined to wing it. When the next piece wouldn't fit on what he had built, I would tell him: "Noah, that one isn't right" and the first words out of his mouth would be: "Yes, it is". He knew it wasn't but he just had to argue. He was a born arguer and funny too. One day last summer his mom had to admonish him and she told him sternly: "Noah, I don't want another peep out of your mouth". He replied without a pause: "What about a poop?" It was so unexpected that she couldn't help it and burst out laughing. They hugged and all was well again. She could never stay mad at him very long. Nobody could.
The same week we celebrated the twins' birthday was the week of the book fair and parent-teacher conferences at their school. I went with Veronique and the three kids and while their mom was with their teachers, we went to buy books and they took turns reading aloud to each other and to me.
I hadn't seen the kids since August and we had a lot of catching up to do in terms of hugs and kisses and jokes and stories. The hour spent there with them is simply a wonderful memory. When Veronique emerged from the conference with Noah's teacher, she had a smile on her face: the teacher said that Noah excelled in all subjects but that he was... a bit fresh. That's our Noah!
To protect what is left of their privacy, I am not posting pictures of Noah's siblings, which means that I have many less pictures to share with you than I would like. But it wouldn't be fair to the two girls. I just want to say that Noah is still very much with them: they don't talk about the tragedy but they talk about their brother as if he were alive although they know he isn't coming back. At least Sophia does, I am not sure about Arielle. Those three were an extraordinary team. Noah is still very much part of it. We'll find a way to make his spirit grow with his sisters and always be there for them. He wouldn't have it any other way.
It is okay to comment but please no sadness. Tell us something about Noah, share stories of your kids, point us towards good books, good movies, good songs, anything that might help the girls grieve and grow or simply laugh, sing and dance their way back to a normal life. Thank you!

32 comments:

  1. Thankyou for giving us a wonderful insight into Noah's life. I am from England and have watched only the news reports, and now you have shown us what a remarkable little boy Noah was and the impact he had on his family and everybody around him. It truly has touched us all.

    Thankyou
    Janie

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    1. I'm totally agree with Little Ragamuffin. I'm from Bangladesh (The other side of the earth if you are in USA) have found news about Noah and others from TV and internet only. Noah's picture with smiling face make me crying all time, I just don't understand how someone could take the life of the worlds most innocent.

      I'm sure that he is already in or on the way to heaven now. Noah, We will pray for you and your family as your family is passing a rough time without you.

      We are in touch to know more about our little friend Noah and his family. We need more Photos of Noah (our little friend).

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  2. What wonderful memories of Noah! Kids do say the best things and it's great that you've written some of them down to remember. When my son was little he loved legos too and used to call the instructions the "constructions" which made me smile every time.

    I hope that soon all the happy and wonderful memories will fill more of the day and there will be less time for sadness.
    marcella

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  3. I love that last picture of him, MC, it looks like it really captures his spunky spirit. I am amazed that you could attempt a large lego project...that is beyond me. May love and happiness be Noah's lasting gifts, not only to his family but to everyone who has been touched by his life. Next time my son gets a lego set, I will think of your patience...

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  4. Precious stories about Noah!

    Here's a puppy on a trampoline for some smiles to his sweet sisters: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tU9RSNXaElw

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  5. I read this to my daughter and we laughed out loud over "What about a poop?" Thank you so much for sharing Noah with us.

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  6. Noah reminds me of my nephew in Germany. He even looks a bit like him. He loves reading too. Sometimes so much that his mum has to kick him out of the house to play with his friends.

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  7. Thank you for these stories about Noah. We heard you and your daughter on NPR this morning. A testament to a sweet boy. "What about a poop?" I laughed so hard. He was all boy, that's for sure!!! Prayers sent on the wind from Minnesota to you and your family.

    Paul

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  8. Beautiful Noah! Love his gorgeous eyes! I have a 6 years old son and I can relate to the cute and funny stories! Hugs from Taiwan!

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  9. What a lovely spirit he is in the world. Thank you for sharing MC!

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  10. I watched CNN last evening and watched the incredible McDonnell family talk about their beautiful Grace, and now I see your words and your children's words on the vivacious and life-embracing Noah. Seeing these two children and the family's reactions gives me a bit of hope (if that's the right word). In the face of unspeakable sadness, I see life. In these pictures, I see the sweetness and playfulness of a boy. I have two boys who are just a bit older and I watch them in awe as they grow up yet still have that smile and sly smile.

    Thank you for sharing Noah with us at this private time. I just love and smile at the wrestling shirt picture and can feel his love around you in these photos. From Philadelphia area, we give a big hug to you and your family. B'shalom!!

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  11. I am so happy to have found your site where you share such beautiful memories of Noah -thank you! As I learn more and more about your beautiful grandson, I am struck by the similarities between him and my 5.5 year old son, whose initials, incidentally, match yours (he's our MC). My son loves Mario brothers, Legos, animals, his family, especially his 7 yo sister, and he rules our house with his quips, quick wit and larger-than-life personality. Funny, when my husband and I went to parent-teacher conferences last month, we were ALSO told that while he is doing beautifully scholastically, he needs to work on "talking back, and talking in general, a little less." I want to wish you and your daughter and family strength and courage as you go forward on your journey. May Noah's memory be a blessing for you all.

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  12. Thanks for sharing some memories of him. I have an acquaintance that is the cousin of Olivia Engel, one of those lost in this tragic incident, but other than that I have no connection to this terrible shooting. Nevertheless, it has struck me to the core and I'm finding comfort in just how beautiful and wonderful all these children and teachers were. Noah was a very handsome boy; his eyes are just captivating. Prayers are going to you and the family.

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  13. Thank you so much for sharing Noah's story and pictures. He's a hansome young man and he reminds me so much of my son Daniel. Like Noah, Dan is the goofy loving type with big eyes and incredibly long eyelashes. Unlike Noah, he does not get along with his two sisters most of the time. That look on Noah's face when he's holding up the Star Wars book is pricelss and it says it all, doesn't it? I have Noah's picture as the wallpaper on my computer. His beautiful face and his gorgeous smile inspire me to fight for change. I've already written letters, posted comments and invited everyone I know to the Million Mom March scheduled for Mother's Day in DC. I marched back in 2000 and I'm planning to march again this May, this time for Noah.

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  14. My wife and I live in Australia and we have cried our eyes out. Our hearts go out to Noah's family and all of the other families.

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  15. MC - thank you so much for sharing these photos of Noah and stories with us during this harrowing time. You have so much grace and strength. Simply Noah is a gorgeous boy and as I said in a previous post, I have been charmed by the photo of him at the book fair (the 3rd photo). The purity and gentleness of his nature is easily seen and felt. You have been truly blessed having this boy as your grandson.

    Noah reminds me of my youngest son Gabriel who is also 6 years old: a good reader, good student, loves lego, loves his pug puppy and has the attitude. At that age they just love to push the boundaries... but would we have it any other way?

    Love and prayers,
    Michele T (Australia).

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  16. Thank for the loving stories, Farine, your grandson was an adorable young man.

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  17. IMC, I rushed to your site just having found out now. I will read all your posts, read everything about Noah, commit his name and face to memory MC. My prayers, my thoughts for Noah and everyone he loved....Gretchen

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  18. Marie Claude:

    The pictures of Noah are wonderful. His personality jumps off the screen. My closest friend lost her thirty-five son a few years ago. She loves when we talk about him and some of the wild things he did. It keeps him alive for her. She read your blog and is sending it to the leader of the grieving group she attended after her son died.

    I was so pleased about what you wrote about Obama. I'm not surprised but nevertheless it was good to hear.

    I think about you often and wonder where you are.

    Much love, Harriet

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  19. Some GREAT songs to listen to are "The Hurt and The Healer" by MercyMe
    and "Praise You in this Storm." These songs have helped me in the healing process of loosing my brother, (Benjamin Cloutier).

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  20. Thank you for the beautiful pictures.

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  21. Thank you so much for sharing Noah with us!

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  22. Wonderful. It is so nice to see more photos, and read more about Noah's infectious spirit. That last photo is too darling. One website of cuteness that I like has baby zoo animals: www.zooborns.com

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  23. Noah is such a beautiful boy. He's an angel. My son is only one, and he's a bit fresh. What about a poop? now thats funny. This is a good time for the movie "THE NEVERENDING STORY" . For those who remember the 1984 boy about the amazing little boy Bastian, I believe if Noah saw that movie, he'd love it!

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  24. I have to say that you are a real writer! I loved all your posts about Noah and his family. Thank you so much for sharing your memories with us! My son is 6 years old and he is in first grade, everytime he does something and says something I think of Noah. Noah's story made me realize that we have to enjoy our kids now and here!

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  25. Thank you so much for sharing these precious gifts of Noah with us, he will always be remember for me and my son and 11/20 will always be a birthday celebration for me in memory of Angel Noah..

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  26. From a mother and grandmother, I am in awe of your dedication to keep Noah's memory alive. I have 2 grandchildren, 3 Y/0 grandson, 6 mo/O granddaughter. My grandson, loves Cars 2 lego sets and Angry birds, I read your post about Noah liking them also. There is something about a little boy, they seem to light up the room and fill up your heart with their energy and excitement. I can tell, MC, are a wonderful woman, mother and grandmother. Your Noah has touched lives in his short 6 yrs on earth that many in a lifetime have never achieved. His eyes and smile have captured me, I will pray for him and your family as I pray for my own. From one Grandmother to another, stay strong and continue your work for Noah.

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  27. Noah was absolutely gorgeous!!! He reminds me so much of my 2.5 year old son, Brogan. They both have those eyelashes and lips that we are all extremely jealous of! The other day I said to my son, "Brogan, are you cute?" He replied, "no mama, I'm brogan!" Hope this made you giggle a little. Although I never knew Noah, I think of him everyday and pray for your family.

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  28. I think you are right, it's healthy and better to focus on the positives and memories of what Noah was like and better to focus on life and all the good things about Noah's life x
    My 3 year old Son Luke is much like Noah in that he cheeks me back. I was so shocked initially when my son turned 3 yrs old and he started to cheek me back. I thought to myself, "You can't cheek me back, you are only 3 yrs old!", then I was worried what he would be like at age 13 if he is doing this to me already at 3 yrs old, so I thought I have to nip this in the bud now and so he got a time out. Just a little one so he knows we don't cheek our parents back, especially at age 3, ha ha.
    He still does it from time to time but he's improving and quickly says sorry now as he knows when he's been a bit naughty, and like your Noah he's very smart too.

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  29. I think you are right, it's healthy and better to focus on the positives and memories of what Noah was like and better to focus on life and all the good things about Noah's life x
    My 3 year old Son Luke is much like Noah in that he cheeks me back. I was so shocked initially when my son turned 3 yrs old and he started to cheek me back. I thought to myself, "You can't cheek me back, you are only 3 yrs old!", then I was worried what he would be like at age 13 if he is doing this to me already at 3 yrs old, so I thought I have to nip this in the bud now and so he got a time out. Just a little one so he knows we don't cheek our parents back, especially at age 3, ha ha.
    He still does it from time to time but he's improving and quickly says sorry now as he knows when he's been a bit naughty, and like your Noah he's very smart too.

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  30. He does look like a mischievous little kid. I bet he could get whatever he wanted by batting those beautiful eyelashes of his!

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  31. Dear MC, I just wanted to let you know this is my favorite post. I check back often as I wouldnt want to miss a single one. I love this post because of all the pictures, I never want to forget Noahs face. The top picture is so "true" of a little boy looks like he was eating cheez-its with the little crumbs left on his lips... precious! I love him :) always

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